Yesterday, I had a truly awakening experience. It was one of those pivotal moments which will stay with me forever. In fact, it's also resulted in me starting this terrible blog (My apologies). Essentially it's allowing me to throw words into cyberspace because it's much cheaper than a therapist and the NHS waiting list is longer than my ratty Lady Godiva wig.
Anyway, I digress! Yesterday, I travelled to Manchester on a rickety old train which Northern Rail should have retired 20 years ago, in the midst of an unbearable heatwave to attend Trans Creative's Art Festival "Trans Vegas". The plan was to go and support my sisters Kuchenga and Charlie, where Kuchenga was interviewing Charlie about her incredible book "To My Trans Sisters" (Which if you've not read, I highly suggest you do, Now!). Now the event was UH-Mazing, emotional, informative and better yet INSPIRING.
. The book itself is an ode to sisterhood, it's like every trans women's fantasy support group, filled with scholars, scientist, activists, models, writers etc. There is literally a letter for every girl, no matter what race, age, or views which makes it even more special.
During the event some of the contributors from the book read their letters it was like being transported into the lives of these sensational women.
However, my favourite part of the whole event was the Q/A portion, A woman at the start of her transition asked: "How do you know what type of woman you are?" The reply was simple "You just are." because she was, she was already a woman, the only thing that changes is the exterior. Kuchenga and Charlie are so articulate and were able to answer every question perfectly.
The whole time I was there I couldn't stop thinking about sisterhood, how we support each other and what it means to me. I think I discovered this after the event, some of us went to eat at the flavour factory named Bundobust, which literally gave me a Meg Ryan moment.
We discussed the event, social politics, passing and our own experiences.
There was something so validating about being around a bunch of trans women (Plus one cute AF cis male) and us discussing thing's I'd be uncomfortable talking to my cis friends about as they'd normally tell me to get off my soapbox. My idea of sisterhood is just that, to pick each other up, empower each other to be our best, most authentic selves.
I learnt so much and gained so much REAL confidence in such a short space of time. This meeting has made me realise that I am in control of my life, who I surround myself with, and aware of the energy I give to people and what I've truly had to sacrifice in order to survive in my hometown. Well no more!
So taking inspiration from Trans Creative's motto "Telling our own stories"
I give you my first blog post which I dedicate to All My Trans Sisters.
'To My Trans Sisters"
Bundobust Restraunt Manchester: